Domestic violence is growing in the city of Bukavu to such an extent that it becomes a scourge that eats away at households. This violation of rights of women is no shortage of negative consequences of marital harmony.
"It is now three months since I lead a hellish life in my home. My husband always wants to behave like a despot and can not stand that I claim any of my rights. Because one night I had called for the satisfaction of my sexual desire, he treats me now bitch and unsatisfied.
He even ask me every time I dare to touch the bed, get my sexual satisfaction where I used to have it. It is as if, for him, I no longer exist. why does mockery and humiliation more than that? " Complains, tears, a young woman of twenty years, married with one child. She had come to seek advice from the office of the Social Vision Asbl to know how to recover its conjugal rights.
Domestic violence against women is a reality today in the city of Bukavu. Many women complain about it, each in form and submits it to his spouse because of domestic violence can take many forms. According to testimonies of women victims, it may be constant reproaches and insults, sometimes without good reason, just slapped with assault, deprivation diverse, lack of dialogue or lack of communication between spouses and so on.
The reason of the stronger
Most women, victims of one or other forms of domestic violence, we met in the city of Bukavu agree on the fact that men behave this way against them for selfish and masculine pride. "They are imbued with the fact that society sees them as head of household. They also wield the biblical words that want women to be submissive to their husbands, forgetting that the law considers all people equal. "Men think they are stronger than us and they are always right," remarked a woman victim, mother of seven children.
While the cause advanced by women is possible, it is also true that domestic violence can be caused in men by other reasons, including drunkenness and, especially low economic power over their women. This result causes men a kind of complex they seek to compensate by acts of violence against their wives. Since the successive wars of 1996, 1998 and 2004 it is women who provide for all household needs, including through the small business, their husbands are reduced to low wages and irregular for some and unemployment for others.
There is no one without two
All this violence is not without consequences for women victims as appropriate, the consequences can be physical, moral or psychological.
"Every time my husband comes home I have goose bumps. The calmness of the day disappears directly because I think that the ordeal began," said Madame Wivinne, which does not hesitate to show it has a few scars on the face and arms, the result of physical abuse of her Husband against him. She even admits that she has what it takes for the house, but she is not happy.
Dr. Anselm, General Practitioner in a polyclinic of the city, said that domestic violence can cause women victims of cardiovascular diseases and injuries of all kinds.
It must be recognized that many women victims of domestic violence suffer in secret. "They are afraid to spread their suffering, either by shame or fear of reprisals from their husbands or just for the sake of maintaining their homes," said Madame Hortense manager, an association of women for the development of Katana .
Whatever its form, domestic violence is a serious violation of the rights of women. Its consequences are such that they affect not only the physical and psychological integrity of the victim, but it also destabilizes the home to take away his characteristic haven.
"It is now three months since I lead a hellish life in my home. My husband always wants to behave like a despot and can not stand that I claim any of my rights. Because one night I had called for the satisfaction of my sexual desire, he treats me now bitch and unsatisfied.
He even ask me every time I dare to touch the bed, get my sexual satisfaction where I used to have it. It is as if, for him, I no longer exist. why does mockery and humiliation more than that? " Complains, tears, a young woman of twenty years, married with one child. She had come to seek advice from the office of the Social Vision Asbl to know how to recover its conjugal rights.
Domestic violence against women is a reality today in the city of Bukavu. Many women complain about it, each in form and submits it to his spouse because of domestic violence can take many forms. According to testimonies of women victims, it may be constant reproaches and insults, sometimes without good reason, just slapped with assault, deprivation diverse, lack of dialogue or lack of communication between spouses and so on.
The reason of the stronger
Most women, victims of one or other forms of domestic violence, we met in the city of Bukavu agree on the fact that men behave this way against them for selfish and masculine pride. "They are imbued with the fact that society sees them as head of household. They also wield the biblical words that want women to be submissive to their husbands, forgetting that the law considers all people equal. "Men think they are stronger than us and they are always right," remarked a woman victim, mother of seven children.
While the cause advanced by women is possible, it is also true that domestic violence can be caused in men by other reasons, including drunkenness and, especially low economic power over their women. This result causes men a kind of complex they seek to compensate by acts of violence against their wives. Since the successive wars of 1996, 1998 and 2004 it is women who provide for all household needs, including through the small business, their husbands are reduced to low wages and irregular for some and unemployment for others.
There is no one without two
All this violence is not without consequences for women victims as appropriate, the consequences can be physical, moral or psychological.
"Every time my husband comes home I have goose bumps. The calmness of the day disappears directly because I think that the ordeal began," said Madame Wivinne, which does not hesitate to show it has a few scars on the face and arms, the result of physical abuse of her Husband against him. She even admits that she has what it takes for the house, but she is not happy.
Dr. Anselm, General Practitioner in a polyclinic of the city, said that domestic violence can cause women victims of cardiovascular diseases and injuries of all kinds.
It must be recognized that many women victims of domestic violence suffer in secret. "They are afraid to spread their suffering, either by shame or fear of reprisals from their husbands or just for the sake of maintaining their homes," said Madame Hortense manager, an association of women for the development of Katana .
Whatever its form, domestic violence is a serious violation of the rights of women. Its consequences are such that they affect not only the physical and psychological integrity of the victim, but it also destabilizes the home to take away his characteristic haven.
Arlene KAJABIKA
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