Despite their meager incomes, many women of the territory of Kabare support their families. Their husbands having resigned from their responsibilities as head of household, it is they who have to work hard to feed and clothe the husband and children and educate their children. And despite all the sacrifices made by these women, their husbands are constantly complaining that they do not care enough about them and threaten to take a second wife.
following the repeated wars that were developed in eastern DRC, several families in the South Kivu province have lost their jobs, their income-generating activities and several valuables. Many men died in these wars and those who survived was themselves unemployed. Faced with this factual situation, women have taken over. In urban areas they have engaged in several trades to survive their families. We saw them work for others, to the porter, maintain small vegetable gardens in the family plot, sell various small items at the auction, etc.. Those in rural areas were not spared by this calamity. Most of them were left on the road because their villages burned or invested by local and foreign armed groups. To survive they must get up very early to cultivate the fields of others for a small fee. The return of peace, all the families on the move have returned to their villages. In the territory of Kabare, men did not understand that they must regain their place as head of the family. They continued to wait while their wives.
Nabintu Sifa, a woman of 45 years living in the village Kagabi complains: "I sell the sweet patatoes with a capital equivalent to $ 20. I have to walk every day a distance of 10 km to reach the market. All because it's me who now and have to feed and clothe my husband and six children, pay school fees of these children and take care of all other family needs. "
Nabintu Sifa is not the only woman to complain in this direction in Kabare. This is almost universal for all women of this territory. Not that their husbands are unable to find ways to play their part but simply because they prefer to live in idleness to enslave their women. And even when they happen to catch a penny, these men prefer to squander it in beer and other personal trivia rather than to benefit their families.
"My money is not intended for the purchase of food, clothing or school fees for children. If the mother does not want to do it is their problem. I have sufficiently supported and I never complain. When she will be unable to support, I will marry a second woman who can do it better, "said Mr. CHISHIBANJI arrogantly, husband of Mrs. Sifa NABINTU.
Bound by a tradition that the woman is completely submissive to her husband, these women of Kabare are going through this martyr in spite of themselves. To save their husbands and they are avoiding rivals, they resign themselves to this kind of slavery which is in fact a serious violation of their basic rights.
Association rights of women should take up this situation to educate these women and their husbands on the roles and responsibilities in the home. Maybe this can help these men of Kabare understand that happiness of a family is the complementarity between man and his wife.